When people do not believe in you, how do you feel?
And when they do believe in you? “You can do it. Only you can do it. I will see how you can not not do it! You have it in you! You are powerful! You can do anything!” How do you feel?
So if your strength and weakness will always depend on people around you then you will be sometimes strong and sometimes weak. You will need to make sure that the people around you always say encouraging words to you – all the time! Else you will be weak! Is it possible to do such a thing?
People who love us the most, worry about us the most and project their fears and worry onto us. For eg, I always worry about my husband riding a bike so he is not driving in front of me but my sister believes in him so he drives in front of her easily.
When we worry, we say “Will you be able to do this?” But suppose if we start with faith, blind faith – “Of course he can, how can he not!” then he will be able to do it, may be not that day or even next day but one day! Because you believe in them!
Belief is the first step and unfortunately we are programmed out of believing in us! Unless you prove yourself to the world, you can not believe that you are a powerful human being. Unless you have 50,000 employees working under you, unless you are earning a considerable amount of money, unless you are respected by the community, unless you own a house, a big car, unless you have such and such things – you do not have the power to call yourself “Successful” “Powerful” “Respectful”. How SAD! How sad is this state of affairs. How will you ever work with strength, power and respect if you do not have it to begin with. How can you earn these internal things? You can never.
You must call everyone a liar!
When they curse you, they are Liars! When they praise you, they are Liars! You yourself are the biggest Liar of all! Because you have NO IDEA ABOUT YOU. You do not even know WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF. You understand? No one here knows that! NO ONE! Not even you. Especially you! That is why you go on believing all the crap the world throws on you!
STOP THIS NONSENSE! Stop believing everyone around you. Stop it! Stop it now! Call them out mentally – “You are lying, you do not know it yet, but you are lying. You think you are saying correct things about me, but you do not even know 0.00000001% of me. So how can you possibly say any truth? Its not your fault! but you are lying“. When they call you an Angel, think in your mind “They must be happy inside so good things are coming out”. When they call you devil, think in your mind, “They must be sad inside so bad things are coming out”. It has nothing to do with me. NOTHING! THEY ARE LIARS!
Now once you break all the ties with all things that were said about you, you will attain true personal freedom! In this free state, its upto you to design a new you!
Are you ready? You can be anything you wish now!
Again do not start with limiting beliefs. “I will be a good law-biding citizen”. NO!
Say “I dont know who I am and I do not know what I am capable of!” Live your life exploring all that you can be! It is so much fun! Do everything you ever wished as a child in whatever capacity. When the mind starts questing you, saying – “Are you sure you can do this?” Answer loudly – “You dont know who I am and you do not know what I am capable of!” Mind will quiet down and you can go on living how you wish to live. Laughing, loving and just being with ease. Nothing to prove. Nothing to hold you back. No one to hold you back, because all of them are unknowingly lying, you do not believe a word they say about you. So you are free!